I recently stumbled on a story about a lady coming to terms with her new status in her friend’s life. This lady was desperately trying to reach her former bestie who got married and immediately began to ignore her calls. She figured the only way she could reach her was through a blog and so she sent a message asking her “former friend” why she “ditched” her.
Somehow this situation has become some sort of epidemic were married women are choosing to cut ties with their former besties swapping them instead for other married women.
While it may not be a bad idea to have a few married friends in your click, understanding the logic behind totally ignoring your “asoebi girls” once the wedding is done is quite difficult.
I have however come up with a few reasons I think may be responsible for this sometimes ludicrous behaviour.
So you lived a rough life before you said “I do” and now you are terrified your friend who knew everything about your past will be generous with the info? First off if you don’t trust your friend enough to keep a secret you don’t want getting to your spouse, you never should have had her as a friend to begin with. You really should evaluate your friend picking skills.
This is usually the most common and parents are mostly to blame in my opinion. Oh, so after having your back all these years and being your ride or die you suddenly remember she isn’t a good influence on your new status as “Mrs Married Woman”? Okay. But remember birds of a feather… you know the rest.
Hubby doesn’t approve
I mean if you can dictate to hubby who he hangs out with as well, then I guess it’s all good when you decide to kick bestie to the curb because of him. But really, is this a good enough reason to let go a lifelong friendship?
She flirts with My Man
This is deep. Really deep. But if you have a friend that is undeniably flirting with your spouse(and it’s not just in your head) this might be a good time to let her go except of course your plan is to keep your enemy or in this case “frenemy” close.
This list is inexhaustible with only one of these reasons making a little bit of sense to me while others are just crazy. Did you have to let a friend go after you got married? Please share your reasons.